Have you seen the 1960’s film Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Wolfe featuring a couple trapped in a cycle of constant bickering and viscous argument. It was ground-breaking back then, but how many couples do you know whose relationship relies on some of that to some degree, scorning the other for a weakness in themselves?
Having A Harmonious Relationship
And who doesn’t love the company of a couple who allow each other the freedom to speak for and be themselves? How many relationships are actually like that though and if not why not?
The Quality Of Your Relationships
Being in harmony with yourself has a great deal to do with the quality that that not only brings to a relationship, any relationship, but also the types of people you find yourself surrounded by.
This alone is a highly important reason to work on yourself, your attitudes and the way you interact with the world, especially when it’s not working as you’d like.
How many of us were lucky enough to grow up in a family that wasn’t dysfunctional in some way, but it doesn’t mean anyone is to blame for a variety of reasons:
- Child rearing doesn’t come with a manual
- Everyone but everyone does the very best they can at the time, with the tools they have, from the perspective of their own experience of the wider world
- It’s a long hard job full of cause, effect, and inherent patterns
- Inept coping strategies are often passed down through the family line
- It’s the way we’re wired
What Impact Do They Make?
Poor quality relationships, albeit at work, with a family member or the relationship with your partner can have a devastating impact. You may also find you’re attracting similar types of behaviours in new relationships, that keep you stuck in a cycle.
And don’t be surprised if you get triggered into having some physical symptoms weaving in and out, such as pain, or being susceptible to colds, throat infections, a bad back, pain, etc.
If you’re feeling stressed or have recurring symptoms there is often a link and when you realize that connection, it’s delightful, because it can change.
What Else Is Being Affected
A toxic relationship is just that and if you have one that’s triggering disruptive feelings in you, then it’s likely to be having an impact on your overall well-being. And of course it’s impacting others around you. Another example of the unwanted effects are found in your environment where the following may have happened:
- Your confidence takes a dive
- Begin socialising less
- Become more withdrawn and insular
Of course long-term stress can lead to poor habits such as comfort eating, excessive drinking, etc. You may feel less safe in your environment, or lose interest in a job you once loved, all sorts of things can develop. But it’s all changeable, because each and every component has a logical connection, and you can get free of it.
Moving On
The approach here leaves you in a much stronger position for moving your life forwards. And once addressed, you’ll stop attracting the same-old-same-old. Instead you’ll start creating much better relationships and opportunities, as the unwanted fades away.
And in case there are people you’d rather not lose altogether, this is not based on all-or-nothing, instead things can magically improve with people you never thought possible.
What To Do Next
If you’re ready to do things differently:
- Arrange a chat with Jane and explore your options
- Call on 01303 223233 or 07951 522829
- Email makingchange@janeunsworth.com
- Drop-in sessions
- Workshops
- One-to-one sessions
- VIP Days to change a whole heap of symptoms
- Face-to-face
- Over Skype
- On the phone
- Online courses
